I just got an email from a very good friend, as she’s asked me to be in her wedding in September. I am really happy for her, and really excited to be in the wedding — I’ve known her since I was 2 years old, and she is a professional artist and a really wonderful person. I sent her an email asking about bridesmaids dresses, and in her response to me, unfortunately, she told me they are holding a little sweat lodge for the bridal party, on the beach, the night before the wedding.
Oh dear oh dear oh dear. I can’t in good conscience participate in that. Her heart is in the right place, and I’m travelling a long way to get to the wedding. What on earth do I say to her that doesn’t make me sound like a big old jerk?